Last week was chaotic with all of my children having a birthday in the same week! Ariana on the 6th, Madisyn on the 7th, and lastly Jacob on the 11th. Phew...it was a busy week!
Their birthdays always bring back memories and feelings of my birthing experiences. I had my first cesarean section with Madisyn. I will never forget it.I had a healthy pregnancy, and with every pregnancy as you get to end it becomes uncomfortable. This was no exception. She was originally due on March 17, but because of her estimated size the doctor wanted to induce her on March 6th (funny because that is Ariana's birthday). Anyway, a day or two before, I went in for an ultrasound and the tech estimated Madisyn was already over 9 lbs maybe even closer to 10 lbs.
This wouldn't be an issue for a mother who was a little bigger than me. I am 5'2 with a small frame.
The doctor was not convinced I would be able to push her out without complications. He advised she could get stuck and it could cause her to have cerebral palsy. He wanted to do an elective c-section.
I was very emotional and my hormones were raging. I really didn't know if that was the right decision but I didn't want my baby to have any issues. So I went through with the c-section. Let me tell you it was the single worst thing I have ever been through in my adult life.
|Right after my c-section feeling loopy on pain meds|
not the best feeling while holding your newborn
Since then, I have done some research on the current rising c-section rate in the United States. You can find additional information on this here. Many of these surgeries are happening with no medical reason and are purely elective. It sickens me because this is major abdominal surgery and offers a longer recovery time. Please, do not get me wrong, if a cesarean is medically necessary than there is no question. However, I am still trying to understand why doctors would allow women to have elective cesarean sections.
I feel as though the doctor bullied me into making the decision with Madisyn, and took advantage of my situation. The ultrasound was wrong and she only weighed 8lbs 3 oz. I could have avoided surgery if only the doctor hadn't pushed the issue.
I wanted to have a VBAC with Jacob, but the hospital in my area does not allow them. I think many doctors are afraid. As with any birth experience, there could be complications. That being said, there could also be issues with a repeat cesarean.
I feel that it is an epidemic which should be stopped. My sister, Melissa, had a successful VBAC and also feels the same way as I do. A c-section is not the way to give birth if it can be avoided. For more information on a VBAC and cesarean awareness go here.
What are your thoughts on this subject? Have you ever felt bullied or overlooked by your doctor?